People around you

Here I am again, in front of my keyboard approaching a subject that came in my mind - people around me - you are probably wondering or asking yourself, how did I came up with that thought. here's how : I was on the street walking with my friend to go get coffee at a really nice coffee shop and on our way I looked across the street and saw all of those people waiting for the next bus. There was all kind of people dressed differently but yet they were all waiting for the same thing, the next bus. After I look at those people as I was walking, my eyes stopped on this person that was screaming at someone else. Maybe she was her girlfriend, a friend or even someone he didn't even know but there was a lot of swears involved. Seeing them screaming made me feel bad.Then, my friend told me something funny that I don't remember but I remember that I laughed, like a lot. This situation got me thinking about the people who is around me in my life and how I feel when I am with them and how they act with me. That's how I got this thought in my head and here's my thought led me.

Are the people around me really interested about this cool thing that I did on the weekend or about this book that I'm reading or even how was my day ? Do they really wanna know about this stuff in my life ? Are they interested in what I have to say ? The answer that I got from those questions is yes they do but not everyone does. Let me explain ; for me there is 2 types of people who is around you in your life. There are the people who truly cares about you and the rest of them : the people who are there to take advantage of you, the kind of people for who you are always there but they are never for you, the people who makes a lot of drama and makes you feel like you did something wrong when you actually didn't. I'll give you an example of one of those people that actually was in my life. I was friend for a long time with someone. We went to high school together and we talked about pretty much everything. when we graduated, he decided to go back home and we kinda stoped talking because, you know, we both took different direction. So one day, I texted him to ask how he was doing back home and in his new school, new life. He saw my text, never answered. Then two days later, I get a text from him asking me to give him a shoutout on my Instagram story to get more followers. when I was talking about people who takes advantage of you and don't actually care about you, that's one of them. After that I realized he was not actually interested about how I was doing and about who I am so I just stopped talking to him.

Now back to my answer about all those question I asked myself.

Those people who cares, are interested, are there for you are the people that have the right to be around you. The rest of them does not deserve to be around you. Why would someone who take advantage of you, makes you feel bad or make drama could deserve to have you sharing thing of your life with them ? It doesn't make sense ! They just don't deserve who you are. So, I started to identify the real people around me the people, the people who really care about me and then when they were identified, I kept them involved in my life because those people are the one where I feel good, I laugh and where I have fun when I am around them. The rest of the people that I did not feel good around, I disconnected with them because I didn't want to put myself in a relation with someone where I felt bad, where I felt used or where I felt unhappy. It might sound weird but I actually chose with who I wanted to share aspects of my life with. Finally, I surrounded myself with the people who are good for me and I'll tell you something, I feel so much better since I've done that.

I encourage everyone who read this to do the same thing because everyone deserve to be happy with the people who's around you.

Signed S.